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The Internet is a new and growing factor in the sexual exploitation of children
Where To Find Help
How to Find a Therapist
Additional Bibliography of Recommended Readings
The Trauma Center at Bessel van der Kolk's The Justice Resource Institute
Archived Book Info, Articles, and Papers

The Internet is a new and growing factor in the sexual exploitation of children

One in five children who use computer chat rooms has been approached over the Internet by pedophiles and only 25% of youth who received sexual solicitation told a parent. (TopTen Reviews, Inc., 2005)
More than 20,000 images of child pornography are posted on the Internet every week. (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children, 10/8/03)
Child pornography generates $3 billion annually. (12/2005, Internet Filter Review.com)
100,000 websites offer illegal child porn. (US Customs Service estimate)
140,000 child pornography images were posted to the Internet, according to researchers who monitored the Internet over six weeks. Twenty children were estimated to have been abused for the first time and more than 1,000 images of each child created. (National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to children, 10/8/03)
Demand for pornographic images of babies and toddlers on the Internet is soaring. (Prof. Max Taylor, Combating Pedophile Information Network in Europe, March, 2003)

Where To Find Help

The following organizations have websites with a wealth of information.

The Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (RAINN)
2000 L St. NW, Ste. 406
Washington, DC 20036
(202) 544-3064
www.rainn.org
info@rainn.org
RAIN is the nation’s largest anti–sexual assault
organization and operates the National Sexual Assault
Hotline at (800) 656-HOPE.

National Domestic Violence Hotline
(800) 799-SAFE (799-7233)
www.ndvh.org

Childhelp USA
National Child Abuse Hotline
(800) 4-A-CHILD (800-422-4453)
www.childhelpusa.org

Child Molestation Research & Prevention Institute
www.childmolestationprevention.org
You will find much relevant, useful material at this site.

Women’s Resource Center to End Domestic Violence
www.wrcdv.org
info@wrcdv.org

Girlthrive
www.girlthrive.com
Wonderful, user-friendly website designed for teen
girls and young women who have survived sexual abuse,
with information, stories, and expert interviews.

Gift from Within
www.giftfromwithin.org
Post-traumatic stress disorder resources for
survivors and caregivers.

Stigma
www.stigmatized.org
Support for children conceived through rape or incest.

Survivors of Incest Anonymous
www.siawso.org
(410) 893-3322

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How to Find a Therapist

I think the best way to find a therapist is through the recommendation of a friend who knows a good one. Physicians and clergy are also good sources of referrals. Many people find therapists through their insurance company or managed care plan. Always do some research once you get a few names. Google the therapist, look at websites, and make sure the therapist is licensed and in good standing with his or her professional organization. My professional organization, the American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy, has an online referral service, noted below. Many therapists listed have extended listings, describing their practices. Feel free to call and ask questions before making an appointment. I think that within the first three sessions you will have a sense for whether or not this is the right therapist for you.

American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy (AAMFT)
112 S. Alfred St.
Alexandria, VA 22314
(703) 838-9808
www.aamft.org
www.therapistlocator.net

American Psychiatric Association
1000 Wilson Blvd., Ste. 1825
Arlington, VA 22209
(703) 907-7300
www.psych.org

American Psychological Association (APA)
750 1st St. NE
Washington, DC 20002
(202) 336-5500
(800) 374-2721
www.apa.org

National Association of Social Workers (NASW)
750 1st St. NE, Ste. 700
Washington, DC 20002
(202) 408-8600
www.socialworkers.org

Association for the Treatment of Sexual Abusers (ATSA)
4900 S.W. Griffith Dr., Ste. 274
Beaverton, OR 97005
(503) 643-1023
www.atsa.com

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Additional Bibliography of Recommended Readings

The following books were helpful to me during my recovery and the writing of this book.

NOTE: clicking on highlighted book title links takes you to Amazon.com where you can order the book or any of the others in this bibliography.

Memoirs

Angelou, Maya. I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings. New York: Bantam Books, 1969.

Daniell, Rosemary. Fatal Flowers : On Sin, Sex, and Suicide in the Deep South (Hill Street Classics). Athens, GA: Hill Street Press, 1999.

Francisco, Patricia Weaver. Telling: A Memoir of Rape and Recovery. New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1999.

Jamison, Kay Redfield. An Unquiet Mind: A Memoir of Moods and Madness. New York: Vintage Books, 1996.

Knapp, Caroline. Drinking: A Love Story. New York: Dell Publishing, 1996.

Lauck, Jennifer. Blackbird: Blackbird: A Childhood Lost and Found. New York: Pocket Books, 2001.

McCourt, Frank. Angela's Ashes: A Memoir. New York: Scribner, 1999.

Raine, Nancy Venable. After Silence: Rape & My Journey Back. New York: Three Rivers Press, 1998.

Silverman, Sue William. Because I Remember Terror, Father, I Remember You (Associated Writing Programs Award for Creative Nonfiction). Athens: University of Georgia Press, 1996.

Walls, Jeannette. The Glass Castle: A Memoir. New York: Scribner, 2006.

Wiesel, Elie. All Rivers Run to the Sea: Memoirs. New York: Alfred A. Knopf, 1995.

Wisechild, Louise M. The Obsidian Mirror: An Adult Healing from Incest. Seattle: Seal Press, 1998.

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Recovery from Sexual Abuse

Bass, Ellen, and Laura Davis. The Courage to Heal 4e: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse 20th Anniversary Edition. New York: Harper & Row, 1998.

Bass, Ellen, and Laura Davis. The Courage to Heal 4e: A Guide for Women Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse 20th Anniversary Edition. New York: Harper & Row, 2008.

Feuereisen, Dr. Patti, with Caroline Pincus. Invisible Girls: The Truth About Sexual Abuse--A Book for Teen Girls, Young Women, and Everyone Who Cares About Them. Emeryville, CA: Seal Press, 2005.

Finney, Lynne, JD, MSW. Reach for the Rainbow: Advanced Healing for Survivors of Sexual Abuse. New York: Perigee Books, 1990.

Mather, Cynthia, and Kristina Debye. How Long Does It Hurt: A Guide to Recovering from Incest and Sexual Abuse for Teenagers, Their Friends, and Their Families. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2004.

Thomas, T. Surviving With Serenity: Daily Meditations for Incest Survivors. Deerfield Beach, FL: Health Communications, Inc., 1990.

Wisechild, Louise M., ed. She Who Was Lost Is Remembered: Healing from Incest Through Creativity (New Leaf Series). Seattle: Seal Press, 1991.

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Spirituality

Brock, Rita Nakashima. Journeys by Heart: A Christology of Erotic Power. New York: Crossroad Publishing Company, 1991.

Flaherty, Sandra. Woman, Why Do You Weep?: Spirituality for Survivors of Childhood Sexual Abuse. New York: Paulist Press, 1960.

Foote, Catherine J. Survivor Prayers: Talking with God about Childhood Sexual Abuse. Louisville, KY: Westminster/John Knox Press, 1994.

Fox, Matthew. Sins of the Spirit, Blessings of the Flesh: Lessons for Transforming Evil in Soul and Society. New York: Harmony Books, 1999.

Fox, Matthew. Original Blessing: A Primer in Creation Spirituality Presented in Four Paths, Twenty-Six Themes, and Two Questions. Sante Fe, NM: Bear & Co., Inc., 1983.

Gluck, Louise. Wild Iris. Hopewell, NJ: The Ecco Press, 1992.

Johnson, Elizabeth. She Who Is: The Mystery of God in Feminist Theological Discourse. New York: Crossroad Publishing Company, 1994.

Leehan, James. DEFIANT HOPE: Spirituality for Survivors of Family Abuse. Louisville, KY: Westminster/John Knox Press, 1993.

Norris, Kathleen. The Cloister Walk. New York: Riverhead Books, 1996.

Osiek, Carolyn, RSCJ. Beyond Anger: On Being a Feminist in the Church. New York: Paulist Press, 1986.

Tutu, Archbishop Desmond. No Future Without Forgiveness. New York: Doubleday, 1999.

Young-Eisendrath, Polly. The Resilient Spirit: Transforming Suffering Into Insight And Renewal. Reading, MA: Perseus Books, 1996.

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Professional Books

Anthony, E. James, and Bertram J. Cohler. The Invulnerable Child (Guilford Psychiatry Series). New York: The Guilford Press, 1987.

Blume, E. Sue. Secret Survivors: Uncovering Incest and Its Aftereffects in Women. New York: John Wiley & Sons, 1990.

Courtois, Christine A. Healing the Incest Wound: Adult Survivors in Therapy. New York: W. W. Norton & Company, Inc., 1988.

Danieli, Yael. International Handbook of Multigenerational Legacies of Trauma (Springer Series on Stress and Coping). New York: Springer, 1998.

Dolan, Yvonne. Resolving Sexual Abuse: Solution-Focused Therapy and Ericksonian Hypnosis for Adult Survivors. New York: W. W. Norton & Company, Inc., 1991.

Engel, Beverly. The Right to Innocence. Los Angeles: Jeremy P. Tarcher, Inc., 1989.

Freyd, Jennifer J. Betrayal Trauma: The Logic of Forgetting Childhood Abuse. Cambridge, MA: Harvard University Press, 1997.

Fossum, Merle A., and Marilyn J. Mason. Facing Shame: Families in Recovery. New York: W. W. Norton & Company, Inc., 1986.

Herman, Judith L., MD. Father-Daughter Incest (with a new Afterword). Cambridge: Harvard University Press, 2000.

Herman, Judith L., MD. Trauma and Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence--from Domestic Abuse to Political Terror. New York: Basic Books, 1992.

Maltz, Wendy. The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (Revised Edition). New York: HarperCollins Publishers, 1991.

Ochberg, F. M., MD, ed. Post-Traumatic Therapy And Victims Of Violence (Psychosocial Stress Series, No 11). New York: Bruner/Mazel Publishers, 1988.

Poston, Carol, and Karen Lison. Reclaiming Our Lives: Hope for Adult Survivors of Incest. Boston: Little, Brown and Company, 1989.

Salter, Anna C. Transforming Trauma: A Guide to Understanding and Treating Adult Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse. London: Sage Publications, Inc., 1995.

Schaefer, Charles, and Kevin O’Connor. Handbook of Play Therapy (Wiley Series on Personality Processes) (Volume 1). New York: John Wiley & Sons, 1983.

van der Kolk, Bessel, MD. Psychological Trauma. Washington, DC: American Psychiatric Press, 1987.

van der Kolk, Bessel, MD., McFarlane, Alexander and Weisaeth, Lars, Eds. Traumatic Stress: The Effects of Overwhelming Experience on Mind, Body, and Society. New York: The Guilford Press, 1996.

Westerlund, Elaine. Women's Sexuality After Childhood Incest. New York: W. W. Norton & Company, Inc., 1992.

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Other Recommended Books

Abel, Gene, MD, and Nora Harlow. Stop Child Molestation Book. Philadelphia: Xlibris Corporation, 2001.

Black, Claudia. It Will Never Happen to Me: Growing Up With Addiction As Youngsters, Adolescents, Adults. New York: Ballantine Books, 2002.

Buchwald, Emilie, Pamela Fletcher, and Martha Roth. Transforming a Rape Culture. Minneapolis: Milkweed Editions, 1993.

Burgess, Wes, MD, PhD. The Bipolar Handbook: Real-Life Questions with Up-to-Date Answers. New York: Avery/Penguin Group, 2006.

Crompton, Vicki, and Ellen Z. Kessner. Saving Beauty from the Beast: How to Protect Your Daughter From an Unhealthy Relationship. Boston: Little, Brown and Company, 2003.

Crosby, Michael H. The Dysfunctional Church: Addiction and Codependency in the Family of Catholicism. Notre Dame, IN: Ave Maria Press, 1991.

Davis, Laura. Allies in Healing: When the Person You Love Was Sexually Abused as a Child. New York: Harper Perennial, 1991.

Fast, Julie A., and John Preston, PsyD. Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder. Oakland, CA: New Harbinger Publications, Inc., 2004.

Fast, Julie A., and John Preston, PsyD. Take Charge of Bipolar Disorder: A 4-Step Plan for You and Your Loved Ones to Manage the Illness and Create Lasting Stability. New York: Wellness Central, 2006.

Gottman, John, PhD, with Joan Declaire. Raising An Emotionally Intelligent Child. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1997.

Hampl, Patricia. I Could Tell You Stories: Sojourns in the Land of Memory. New York: W. W. Norton & Company, Inc., 1999.

Love, Patricia, PhD, with Jo Robinson. The Emotional Incest Syndrome: What to do When a Parent's Love Rules Your Life. New York: Bantam Books, 1991.

Magid, Dr. Ken, and Carole A. McKelvey. High Risk: Children Without A Conscience. New York: Bantam Books, 1987.

Malone, Patrick, MD, and Thomas Malone, MD. Art of Intimacy. New York: Prentice Hall Press, 1988.

Miklowitz, David, J. The Bipolar Disorder Survival Guide: What You and Your Family Need to Know. New York: Guilford Press, 2002.

Miller, Alice. Breaking Down the Wall of Silence: The Liberating Experience of Facing Painful Truth. New York: Meridian, 1997.

Napier, Augustus. The Fragile Bond: In Search of an Equal, Intimate and Enduring Marriage. New York: Harper Perennial, 1988.

Napier, Augustus, and Carl Whitaker. The Family Crucible, the Intense Experience of Family Therapy. New York: Harper & Row, 1978.

Peck, Scott M. People of the Lie: The Hope for Healing Human Evil. New York: Simon & Schuster, 1983.

Schnarch, David, PhD. Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love and Intimacy Alive in Committed Relationships. New York: Holt Paperbacks, 1988.

Shapiro, Francine, PhD, and Margot S. Forrest. EMDR: The Breakthrough "Eye Movement" Therapy for Overcoming Anxiety, Stress, and Trauma. New York: Basic Books, 1997.

Stout, Martha, PhD. The Sociopath Next Door. New York: Ballantine Books, 2005.

Terr, Lenore, MD. Unchained Memories: True Stories Of Traumatic Memories Lost And Found. New York: Basic Books, 1994.

Terr, Lenore, MD. Too Scared To Cry: Psychic Trauma In Childhood. New York: Basic Books, 1990.

Van Derbur, Marilyn. Miss America by Day: Lessons Learned from Ultimate Betrayals and Unconditional Love. Denver, CO : Oak Hill Ridge Press, 2003.

Weingarten, Kathy, PhD. Cultural Resistance: Challenging Beliefs About Men, Women, and Therapy. New York: Harrington Park Press, 1995.

Weingarten, Kathy, PhD. The Mother's Voice: Strenghening Intimacy in Families. New York: Harcourt Brace & Company, 1994.

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The Trauma Center at the Justice Resource Institute

www.traumacenter.org

At this website you will find information related to the work of Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., one of the world's foremost authorities in the area of post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

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